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Updated: Jan 18

Have you ever been in a relationship that didn’t work out because the person left you for someone else? In moments of sadness you find yourself still snooping on their social media pages to see what they’re doing. From first glance they look happy, which pulls you down deeper into your pit of despair. You wonder why you’re alone and suffering, while the person who dogged you looks like they’ve moved on and loving life. If you can relate to this, trust me I know how you feel because I’ve been there too.

In one of my moments of despair (I definitely had more than one) God placed these words in my spirit, “This process of wholeness takes a lot of strength and courage. It’s so easy to settle in a relationship and not deal with self, but it takes courage to break the unhealthy cycle and stand not alone, but all one.” So you see beloved, it may look like your ex is winning because he’s moved on to another relationship, but actually you’re winning because you’re choosing to focus on you and heal. The cure for a broken heart is not to find someone else to be with, it’s to spend time with you and allow God to mend your broken pieces. It takes courage to stand by yourself and choose to heal. It takes courage to wait on God to send His best choice for you.

No matter what it looks like, you’re on the right path. James 1:3-4 says “For you know that when your faith is tested, your endurance has a chance to grow. So let it grow, for when your endurance is fully developed, you will be perfect and complete, needing nothing.” Continue to endure under this pain so God can continue to develop you. Continue to pursue healing and wholeness, which will result in you being perfect and complete within yourself, and not needing a man to complete you. I know it hurts. I know it’s difficult. I know it feels lonely. I know you feel rejected. But continue to press towards what’s ahead and not behind. Your past has nothing to offer you but lessons to be learned. No matter what it looks like, you’re winning. So focus on the bright future God has in store for you. God allowed your ex to leave you so He could make room for greater. Your greater is coming!

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